What I look for in role playing

First and foremost I enjoy writing with someone who provides well written detail but not overzealous and supercilious description.  I love reading character development and inner thoughts, descriptions of the surroundings and the sounds that people make.  Clearing throats, boards squeaking under heavy boots with thick soles. The sound of clothing rustling as they move about. I don't care so much about how green leaves are this year in comparison to last year. Describing the color of the leaves is fine. Once or twice. I don't like repetition in description in each and every single post.  Three posts in, I know what color my writing partner's eyes are and don't need to be reminded every time I sit down to reply.  It's nice to have it once a page as a reminder, though. I like having a writing partner who is truly a writer or a role player who can slip into character versus someone who is a 'Self-Insert Sue'.  That's someone who just inserts themselves into a role and plays themselves regardless of the situation.  I don't mind them so much if they seem 'grown up' and capable of handling the situation at hand.  A lot of those people freak out if things push their buttons.  Things that push my buttons often don't push those of my characters and vice versa. A person who is true to their characters understands that I don't pull their strings and make them do things a certain way; they understand that the characters have personalities of their own and do what they want to do, not what I want. Those that don't understand this are hateful and accusatory when things don't go their way. I don't like partners who are control freaks and have to have dominion over every single little word that I write and will PM or IM me to tell me that I could have put more effort in or I didn't describe some little nuance of this or that to their specifications. I don't like partners who play 'perfect' or 'God-like' characters. If they're not playing a deity from a pantheon, they aren't god or anything near.  Even then they're usually not.  It seems to me that those who have to control every detail probably have little to no control in their lives…or they have no friends because they're assholes and their computer has no choice but to turn on when they push the power button. I do like partners who are willing to work with me when something bothers me, squicks me, or just won't work for my character or me.  There are things that I will not play out and that's true for everyone.  Those limits need to be respected at all times. I hate it when people PM me and we plot, then they disappear or we start a game and they change things that we agreed upon.  I hate it more when they demand things that are in my Offs or push for female/female pairings when I or my character don't/doesn't want to do them.  I might be bisexual but not all of my characters are.  They need to respect my limits or they will lose the game. I don't like having to be a bitch to my writing partners for pushing the limits.  I enjoy their company, their mutual plotting, and understand that they are people with emotions, hearts, real lives, and feelings just like me.  It pains me to have to put my foot down and put on my big girl panties. I have had to chew a few asses and those people were douches and deserved it. I like to play the visual image or as close as I can to my writing partner's likes.  I really enjoy getting my writing partner hard or wet as the case may be.  If my work doesn't inspire their creativity and my smut doesn't inspire their lust, then we have issues.  I also expect the same.  I want to be moved by their emotions and turned on by their erotica. I actually played a rape victim against a man who enjoys playing bad guys.  I almost lost the game due to the fact that my posts moved him and his emotions so much that it gave him fits of conscience.  I eventually lost the game because he wanted porn and not a story. I like being told if it's porn or an actual story up front. I assume that I'm getting a writer when I start a game.  Assuming any less is an insult to those who have the same cravings for words and vocabulary that I do. If it's porn, I don't need to put in as much effort in developing my characters.  Fuck it. If it's porn, it's porn!  But I do so love a good story.